Say “No” Sometimes…

canstockphoto31977632With the start of a New Year, we all tend to reflect on the past year, with all of its lessons and gifts. Again this year, I’m not doing any structured resolutions. I’m still just putting one foot in front of the other, taking it one step at a time. To consider my own needs before automatically saying yes.

Saying “NO” is not easy, especially for a recovering people-pleaser and an over-doer. Doing the inner work is the on-going process of setting up healthy boundaries and ignoring your inner critic. When you are doing inner work it is important to find tools that will help you with the process. Some people use self-help books or meditation; Others may want to work with a life coach. For me, (you know what I’m going to say here) I like to use essential oils, because of how they make me feel. When I started to write this blog, the one oil that came to mind was Lemon…

Lemon, botanical name Citrus Limonum (or Limon), is thought to be native to India & canstockphoto8353462Southeast China.  The fruit reached Europe by way of  Persia and the Middle East sometime around the twelfth century (Although some say Lemons were found in the ruins of Pompeii). In 1493, Columbus brought lemon with him to the West Indies, which introduced them to the new world. The main growers of lemons today are Italy, the USA, Spain & Argentina. The scent of Lemon essential oil is almost indescribable. To say that it is fresh and crisp doesn’t do it justice. It is also very versatile:

  • useful to diffuse during cold and flu season due to it’s antimicrobial, and antiseptic properties.
  • good to use when cleaning your house or doing your laundry.

Lemon is an uplifting, yet calming essential oil  that is said to “open your heart and alleviate the fear of emotional involvement”; it helps with:

  • stress, anxiety, depression
  • insomnia.
  •  focus
  • may help with Seasonal Affective Disorder.

At the end of the day, you have to be true to yourself. So say yes to the things that are important to you.  But pay attention to how you are feeling. If you are feeling exhausted or resentful, it may be because you are running yourself ragged doing things for everyone else. Our bodies give us clues when we are not paying enough attention or taking very good care of ourselves. It is important to say “NO” sometimes, and take time for yourself. In the end, it all comes back to having balance and healthy boundaries in your life.

Contraindications: Cold pressed”Lemon” Essential Oil is photosensitive so care should be taken not to expose the skin to sun or UV rays for 12 -24 hours after use.”
May cause irritation to sensitive skin. Always dilute before topical use.
*** Don’t add  Lemon Essential oil to your drinking water. Check out this website for more info 

My Blog is for information only & not meant to replace medical advice. Essential Oils are not for ingestion & should always be diluted before topical use.


  • Battaglia Salvatore. The Complete Guide to Aromatherapy. 2nd edition,    The International Centre of Holistic Aromatherapy, Australia, 2003
  • Davis, Patricia.  Aromatherapy an A-Z. New revised edition, Vermilion,  an imprint  of   Edbury Publishing, a Random House Company, 2005
  •  Lawless. Julia. The Encyclopedia of Essential Oils, Thorsons, 2002
  • Zeck, Robbi. The Blossoming Heart: Aromatherapy for healing and transformation
    East Ivanhoe, Victoria: Aroma Tours.pp. 80 – 81). East Ivanhoe, Victoria: Aroma Tours. (2004)
  • Mojay, Gabriel, Aromatherapy for Healing the Spirit, Healing Arts Press, One Park Street, Rochester, Vermont A division of Inner Traditions International.(1997)

The Holidays have come again…

No matter what is happening in your life, the holidays always come…  

When you were young or if you had small children it was easy to get excited about the canstockphoto6330148holiday season. Every day there was something new and fun to do… Baking cookies, decorating the tree, attending a school Christmas concert or going out to look at holidays lights & store window displays.

But as you & your children got older it seemed as if some, if not most of the magic & fun were gone. For me,  my children are grown and our family traditions have changed. What I finally realized is that I need to honor the part of me that still misses seeing those excited little faces at holiday time. Transition and change are a fact of life. and it is my attitude to those changes that will affect how I feel throughout the upcoming season.
If you are going thru a transition, or are simply overdoing it,  take a few moments for yourself each and every day to check in and see how you are feeling. Self-care is always important, and some days it is more important than others. Things that I like to do for myself especially at this time of year are actually very simple: a warm, relaxing bath, having a cup of tea while curling up with a good book and of course diffusing some essential oils.
It depends on my mood which essential oil blend that I like to diffuse. At this time of year, I like to diffuse essential oils like Douglas Fir, Pine, or a citrus like Red Mandarin. I love to use Mandarin at this time of year. It takes me back to my childhood;  I remember my mom putting out a big bowl of Mandarin oranges on our coffee table as part of our holiday decorations.

Red Mandarin, Latin name Citrus Reticulata is native to southern China and was brought to canstockphoto8095059Europe around 1805. As Mandarins grew in popularity, they were soon “commercially cultivated” in southern Europe, northern Africa, and they were soon introduced to the Americas, South Africa, and Australia. Mandarin is a lightly scented, citrus oil that is good for easing stress and its calming and relaxing properties make it a good choice to use at bedtime. (It is mild enough to be used around young children & the elderly). It is said to useful for digestive upsets, muscular & joint pain as well as skin care.
(When properly diluted Mandarin is non-toxic, a non-irritant & non-sensitizing. If you are allergic to citrus fruit, it is best to avoid using this oil).

The older that I get, I find that I want the holidays to be a quieter, more introspective time. This year instead of overdoing, I think that I’m going to be under-doing. Less baking, less decorating, less gifting. Just Less! What I want more of is time; to reflect and just be. I also want more time to connect with the important people in my life. As I have been reminded lately, life is short, and all we really have is this moment…

I wish you many quiet moments & lots of  Self-Care this  Holiday Season…

My Blog is for information only &  is not meant to replace medical advice. Essential Oils are not for ingestion & should always be diluted before topical use.


  • Battaglia Salvatore. The Complete Guide to Aromatherapy. 2nd edition,    The International Centre of Holistic Aromatherapy, Australia, 2003
  • Davis, Patricia.  Aromatherapy an A-Z. New revised edition, Vermilion,  an imprint  of   Edbury Publishing, a Random House Company, 2005
  •  Lawless. Julia. The Encyclopedia of Essential Oils, Thorsons, 2002

A is for Allergies?

Spring is sprung, the grass is riz…  Anonymous   (And people in my house are starting to sneeze…  A lot!!!)
100_4432Due to climate change, more and more people seem to be suffering from seasonal allergies. Trees and plants are budding out, and there is a lot of pollen in the air. When it comes to allergies, there are many things that you can do to alleviate your symptoms.

Allergies, simply put, are an overreaction of the immune system to substances that you come into contact with, such as pollen or pet dander.  Diffusing essential oils is one of the ways to find some relief from the symptoms of allergies and hay fever (Allergic Rhinitis).

There are many essential oils that you can choose from, depending on your age,overall health,scent preference, and what your allergy symptoms are. Try diffusing one or two of these essential oils …

Lavender2Lavender: The workhorse of essential oils, as it is useful for so many things. It is said to be helpful for sneezing, sinus congestion and for boosting the immune system.

German Chamomile & Roman Chamomile: are very gentle, effective essential oils. Roman Chamomile is said to be useful for sinus congestion.  German Chamomile is reported to have anti-allergenic properties.  Don’t use either variety of the Chamomiles if you have an allergy to Ragweed.

canstockphoto8353462Lemon: with its antiseptic properties, lemon helps to clean the air of germs and bacteria when used in a diffuser or as a room spray. It is also said to help to support the immune system.

* Lavender, German & Roman Chamomile essential oils are:

  •  gentle enough to use for children over the age of 2  and for elderly people.
    (Lavender & Chamomile hydrosols are a better way to go with children under the age of 2 & can be used as room sprays)
  • Lavender, & both German & Roman Chamomile essential oils are generally safe to use after the 1st trimester of pregnancy but use caution as everyone responds differently to essential oils.  Diffusing & inhalation are always best during pregnancy.
  • *Lemon essential oil: is better for diffusing for children over the age of 2 & for pregnant women.
  • may cause skin irritation & is photosensitive

As always with essential oils, less is best & dilute before topical use.

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Pink Grapefruit & Green Thumbs…

canstockphoto4710604When most people think about February, they think about Cupid, hearts, and chocolate…

For me, I’m still recovering from the fudge that I ate at Christmas. Come February, I like the idea of Candlemass, which is celebrated on Feb 2. It is the halfway point between winter and spring; a celebration to welcome the returning sun and the longer days that start to awaken new growth. Being a gardener, all that I can say is “Bring on Spring”.

Living on the west coast of Canada, winters tend to be rainy, dull and gray and a lot of people get the winter blues. Citrus oils are perfect for this time of year. They smell so fresh and crisp, they just make you feel better. My favorite by far is Grapefruit. Both pink and white varieties are available, with the pink being the sweeter smelling of the two. Read More