Say “No” Sometimes…

canstockphoto31977632With the start of a New Year, we all tend to reflect on the past year, with all of its lessons and gifts. Again this year, I’m not doing any structured resolutions. I’m still just putting one foot in front of the other, taking it one step at a time. To consider my own needs before automatically saying yes.

Saying “NO” is not easy, especially for a recovering people-pleaser and an over-doer. Doing the inner work is the on-going process of setting up healthy boundaries and ignoring your inner critic. When you are doing inner work it is important to find tools that will help you with the process. Some people use self-help books or meditation; Others may want to work with a life coach. For me, (you know what I’m going to say here) I like to use essential oils, because of how they make me feel. When I started to write this blog, the one oil that came to mind was Lemon…

Lemon, botanical name Citrus Limonum (or Limon), is thought to be native to India & canstockphoto8353462Southeast China.  The fruit reached Europe by way of  Persia and the Middle East sometime around the twelfth century (Although some say Lemons were found in the ruins of Pompeii). In 1493, Columbus brought lemon with him to the West Indies, which introduced them to the new world. The main growers of lemons today are Italy, the USA, Spain & Argentina. The scent of Lemon essential oil is almost indescribable. To say that it is fresh and crisp doesn’t do it justice. It is also very versatile:

  • useful to diffuse during cold and flu season due to it’s antimicrobial, and antiseptic properties.
  • good to use when cleaning your house or doing your laundry.

Lemon is an uplifting, yet calming essential oil  that is said to “open your heart and alleviate the fear of emotional involvement”; it helps with:

  • stress, anxiety, depression
  • insomnia.
  •  focus
  • may help with Seasonal Affective Disorder.

At the end of the day, you have to be true to yourself. So say yes to the things that are important to you.  But pay attention to how you are feeling. If you are feeling exhausted or resentful, it may be because you are running yourself ragged doing things for everyone else. Our bodies give us clues when we are not paying enough attention or taking very good care of ourselves. It is important to say “NO” sometimes, and take time for yourself. In the end, it all comes back to having balance and healthy boundaries in your life.

Contraindications: Cold pressed”Lemon” Essential Oil is photosensitive so care should be taken not to expose the skin to sun or UV rays for 12 -24 hours after use.”
May cause irritation to sensitive skin. Always dilute before topical use.
*** Don’t add  Lemon Essential oil to your drinking water. Check out this website for more info 

My Blog is for information only & not meant to replace medical advice. Essential Oils are not for ingestion & should always be diluted before topical use.


  • Battaglia Salvatore. The Complete Guide to Aromatherapy. 2nd edition,    The International Centre of Holistic Aromatherapy, Australia, 2003
  • Davis, Patricia.  Aromatherapy an A-Z. New revised edition, Vermilion,  an imprint  of   Edbury Publishing, a Random House Company, 2005
  •  Lawless. Julia. The Encyclopedia of Essential Oils, Thorsons, 2002
  • Zeck, Robbi. The Blossoming Heart: Aromatherapy for healing and transformation
    East Ivanhoe, Victoria: Aroma Tours.pp. 80 – 81). East Ivanhoe, Victoria: Aroma Tours. (2004)
  • Mojay, Gabriel, Aromatherapy for Healing the Spirit, Healing Arts Press, One Park Street, Rochester, Vermont A division of Inner Traditions International.(1997)

Wise Women…

213 For women, our innate wisdom, intuition, and creativity are gifts that first start to blossom as girls, then later, as we grow into women; these gifts change and evolve from life experience as well as when we “cycle” from one month to the next.

Every month women experience the physical and emotional changes as the hormones estrogen and progesterone, shift in their bodies.  According to the author, Dr. Christiane Northrup “Ovulation represents mental and emotional creativity at its peak”. We, as women, need to embrace our creativity, our wisdom, and our nurturing spirit. We are not more or less than men, just different.

Our bodies are very wise. They let us know if we don’t take care of ourselves. During the  Luteal phase of their cycle, (a few days before your period), a  lot of women experience PMS, stress, or irritability. This is the time most women’s tolerance for other people’s “Stuff” tends to be low (or non-existent). Our irritability is a gift that many don’t recognize. It may help us to notice if things are out of balance or if boundaries need to be set.  This is our body’s way of taking care of us; self-care at a subconscious level.

During the Luteal phase, many women feel tired physically and emotionally. It a good time to slow down, rest, maybe journal or meditate, to pay attention to your feelings and to nurture yourself.  A good way to do this is by diffusing essential oils.

One that I like to use is Geranium, (Latin name Pelargonium Graveolens); it is a perennial, shrubby plant that geranium canstockphoto17790472originated in South Africa.  In the 17th century, it was introduced into Europe, where it hybridized. Around 1880, Geranium plantations were planted on Reunion Island, (east of Madagascar, in the Indian Ocean).

Geranium is an uplifting essential oil that seems to have a balancing effect on the nervous system. Geranium may help to ease hormonal tension & irritability, stress as well as anxiety. Try diffusing it or when diluted, apply topically to your abdomen and/or your pulse points.

As women, I think that it is important to honor all of the phases of our life. The media definitely put a negative spin on what is a natural part of being female. I think that we need to support and mentor other each other and respect each other’s life choices,  instead of making it a competition. We need to return to building communities of Wise Women.

My Blog is for information only & is not meant to replace Medical Advice…Essential Oils are not for ingestion & should always be diluted before topical use.

Use caution when using Geranium essential oil in pregnancy or when breastfeeding. Always dilute for topical use. Geranium essential oil may irritate sensitive skin.


  • Battaglia Salvatore. The Complete Guide to Aromatherapy. 2nd edition,   The International Centre of Holistic Aromatherapy, Australia, 2003  
  • Davis, Patricia.  Aromatherapy an A-Z. New revised edition, Vermilion,  an imprint  of   Edbury Publishing, a Random House Company, 2005
  • Lawless. Julia. The Encyclopedia of Essential Oils, Thorsons, 2002
  • Tisserand, Robert, & Rodney Young,  Essential Oil Safety, 2nd Edition, Churchill Livingstone, 2014
All photos on my blog are from or from my own collection – CP