I have worked on this blog for weeks, re-reading & doing more edits. For some reason, I was hesitant to click the publish button. I finally realized that I was feeling a little insecure, & was worried that this Blog wasn’t good enough. Hmmm… I may still have some work to do on this topic.
If you have been reading my blogs, you will know that I am a big believer in the practice and the idea of Self-Care. I say this because, for me, Self-Care is an ongoing process and sometimes it’s a struggle to remember the tools that I have learned and to use them. I find that when I am especially busy or stressed, this is the time when I am most likely to revert to old and familiar habits. For me, it’s the inner critic in my head. How often have you heard your inner critic telling you that you screwed up? It’s time to turn off the voice of your ego and learn to be kind and to love ourselves. Author Brene Brown says “It’s hard to practice compassion when we’re struggling with our authenticity or when our own worthiness is off-balance.”
Being authentic is to:
- Embrace all aspects of yourself. The light and the perceived dark sides.
- Be who you really are, and not try to be who you think you should be.
- Be aware of and consider releasing any people-pleasing tendencies (it’s not easy, but it is a choice).
- Let go of the notion of being perfect; it simply isn’t attainable, and it is so exhausting to keep up the pretense.
When it comes to Self-Care, you will find that you have different needs at different times. You may just need to be who you are, right now, nothing more. Or you may feel that the time is right to look inward and to explore. Inner work is often emotional, time-consuming and can be a little messy. But it is so worth it. When doing inner work, I think that it is important to:
- Take the time and allow things that are true for you to settle in. See how it feels. Slowly build a firm foundation so that any further inner work that you do won’t be built on shaky ground.
- Go Gently, you really are doing the best you can.
- Find simple tools that resonate with you, where you are right now.
Affirmations: some people have a lot of success with affirmations and doing mirror work (the late Louise Hay was a big believer in doing mirror work). For me, not so much; what I do like to do is use one or two affirmations that resonate with me and repeat them to myself as needed throughout the day. For me, this has always worked better.
EFT Tapping: by tapping your fingers on the energy meridian centres of your body, EFT (also called the Emotional Freedom Technique), is an effective tool that helps to calm the nervous system as well as your anxious and/or busy mind. ***You may also want to diffuse essential oils or apply a well-diluted topical blend when you are doing your EFT Tapping. Try some relaxing oils like Bergamot, Cedarwood, Frankincense, Geranium, Black Spruce or Lavender, to name a few.
Most days I’m ok with the person that I see in the mirror. I also have other days when my old people-pleasing habit is front and centre. If I haven’t paid attention to my own needs, I can end up feeling exhausted and sometimes resentful; this can be an indication that “my” life is out of balance. Self-Care is about having compassion for myself and taking baby steps. It’s about the small things that I do for myself each and every day that can make a difference in how I am feeling. It’s all about being good enough, right now, in this moment.
My Blog is for Information Only & is not meant to diagnose or replace Medical Advice.
Essential Oils should not be ingested and always need to be diluted before topical use.