Say “No” Sometimes…
First Posted January 2016
“If you asked me for my New Year Resolution, it would be to find out who I am.” – Cyril Cusack
I love this quote, and it is so true. I have been on a journey for the last 10 years or so to do just that; to learn and value who I am. I am also learning to value some of my perceived faults and to see them as strengths. It really does depend on how you choose to see things about yourself.
With the start of a New Year, we all tend to reflect on the past year, with all of its lessons and gifts. Again this year, I’m not doing any structured resolutions. I’m still just putting one foot in front of the other, taking it one step at a time. When I looked back at my blog for January 2015, I realized that I followed thru some of the time with my decision to put myself on the list. To consider my own needs before automatically saying yes. Saying “NO” is not easy, especially for a recovering people-pleaser and an over-doer. Doing the inner work, the on-going process of setting up healthy boundaries and ignoring my inner critic is helping me to be a little kinder to myself.
When you are doing inner work it is important to find tools that will help you with the process. Some people use self-help books or blogs. Others may want to work with a life coach. Or you may want to try meditation or yoga. For me, (you know what I’m going to say here) I like to use essential oils, because of how they make me feel. When I started to write this blog, the one oil that came to mind was Lemon…
Lemon, botanical name Citrus Limonum (or Limon), is thought to be native to India & Southeast China. The Ancient Egyptians used to put lemons in their tombs along with figs & dates. The fruit reached Europe by way of Persia and the Middle East sometime around the twelfth century (Although some say Lemons were found in the ruins of Pompeii). In 1493, Columbus brought lemon with him to the West Indies, which introduced them to the new world. The main growers of lemons today are Italy, the USA, as well as Spain & Argentina.
The scent of Lemon essential oil is almost indescribable. To say that it is fresh and crisp doesn’t do it justice. It is also a very versatile:
- try it for skincare, especially oily skin, acne & warts ***see contraindications at the end of this blog.
- useful to diffuse during cold and flu season due to it’s antimicrobial, and antiseptic properties.
- good to use when cleaning your house or doing your laundry. (Try adding a drop or 2 when you are washing your dishes, the scent is amazing).
Lemon is an uplifting, yet calming essential oil; it helps with:
- stress, anxiety, depression as well as insomnia.
- mental focus and may help with Seasonal Affective Disorder.
Lemon is also said to “open your heart and alleviate the fear of emotional involvement”; it is also associated with the 3rd or the Solar-Plexus Chakra. This chakra has everything to do with your personal power, self-esteem & the power of transformation. By taking small steps to make changes in your life (like saying “NO” sometimes), it will actually help to strengthen this chakra.
At the end of the day, you have to be true to yourself. So say yes to the things that are important to you. Whether it is stepping up to help a friend or family member or taking a shift for a co-worker, this shows the kind of friend that you are. But pay attention to how you are feeling. If you are feeling exhausted or resentful, it may be because you are running yourself ragged doing things for everyone else. Our bodies are very wise; when our head is busy overthinking, over-planning and overdoing, our bodies give us clues when we are not paying enough attention or taking very good care of ourselves. It is important to say “NO” sometimes, and take time for some self-care. In the end, it all comes back to having balance and healthy boundaries in your life.
Contraindications: Cold pressed”Lemon” Essential Oil has phototoxic properties so care should be taken not to expose the skin to sun or UV rays for 12 -24 hours after use.”
May cause irritation to sensitive skin. Always dilute before topical use.
*** Don’t add Lemon Essential oil to your drinking water. Check out this website for more info
My Blog is for information only & not meant to replace medical advice. Essential Oils are not for ingestion & should always be diluted before topical use.
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