Long, Hot Summer

First posted July 2015

A life without love is like a year without summer.  – Swedish Proverb 

canstockphoto1494214In the Summertime there is nothing better than being at the beach, so you can “Soak up the Sun”  & relax. Summer gives us a sense of well-being, connecting with nature & connecting with each other. It’s having the time to spend with the special person in your life, or it may be about meeting someone new, a “Summerfling”. Summer is all about Passion & Romance. Of the 5 senses, most people would say sight is the most important when it comes to simulating a passionate response.  Debby Herbenick Ph.D. author of “Because It Feels Good”, says “People tend to feel more sexual in the warm weather because they are visually stimulated by of all of the flesh on display.” For some people, it’s all about the sense of taste, having a romantic dinner (although I prefer chocolate to raw oysters). Or it could be a favorite song. And, of course, there’s the sense of smell. The use of essential oils has been around since the ancient Egyptians who started using “aromatic” oils to stimulate their senses, & improve virility. Essential oils can have a powerful effect on the emotional body. When you inhale the scent of essential oils it stimulates the nerve endings of the olfactory bulb (at the back of the nose) which then stimulates the limbic part of the brain. This area of the brain stimulates our memories, as well as emotions like love, joy, compassion & pleasure.  Author Valerie Ann Worwood says, “Our emotional state at any particular time  can act as a powerful aphrodisiac.”


The definition of an aphrodisiac is a substance or an agent thought to stimulate or enhance passion. The different scents &  properties of essential oils can make the experience different for everyone. An aromatherapy massage oil is a sensual way to connect with your partner. The fact that a massage is incredibly relaxing  & can help to relieve pain & discomfort is just a side benefit. Diffusing essential oils work well for stress, & anxiety, as well creating ambiance.  Everyone has their own scent preference, some people like the earthier scents while others like the floral or the spicier scents.

Some essential oils to consider…

canstockphoto9721822Sandalwood has been around for centuries. It was used as incense in temples & churches. The oil is a base note with grounding properties helpful with reducing stress, meditation & getting in tune with yourself. (Don’t use while pregnant or breastfeeding).

Patchouli is a calming & grounding base note that helps to relieve stress & anxiety. It’s earthy, exotic fragrance has long been used in perfume & massage oils. It is a good alternative for the more expensive Sandalwood. (Don’t use while pregnant or breastfeeding)

Cedarwood  (especially the Atlas variety) is an earthy masculine scent, used by the ancient Egyptians to make perfume. It is considered a tonic which improves the systems of the body, relieves stress & appeals to the senses. (Don’t use while pregnant or breastfeeding)

Cinnamon has a warm, spicy scent that was commonly used as an aphrodisiac. (Remember getting Cinnamon Hearts on Valentine’s Day?) Use caution if using Cinnamon essential oil topically. You need to use very small amounts that are well diluted so it doesn’t  irritate your skin. (Don’t  use while pregnant)

clary sageClary Sage is an uplifting essential oil that is said to be helpful for depression, stress, anxiety, & PMS, as well as boosting the libido in both males & females. Don’t use topically while drinking alcohol as it amps up the effect.
(Don’t use while pregnant or breastfeeding)

Jasmine is an exotic, floral essential oil that is calming for stress & anxiety.It is said that Cleopatra & King Louis XVI used jasmine in their fragrances. Jasmine improves your sense of well-being, & may help to increase sexual interest. (Don’t use while pregnant or breastfeeding)

Vanilla has a rich, sweet scent that is used in 23% of all “quality perfumes”.
It is a comforting & relaxing essential oil that is good for stress, anger, depression, anxiety & insomnia. Vanilla is also thought to be helpful for loss of libido.  (Don’t use while pregnant or breastfeeding)


Ylang Ylang is a very sweet, floral scent. In Indonesia, Ylang Ylang flowers were strewn on the wedding bed, (it is said to be beneficial for boosting sexual interest). Ylang Ylang is also helpful for stress, anxiety & insomnia.


You may also want to consider Rose, Neroli, Cardamom, Coriander,  Nutmeg, Ginger, & Vetiver essential oils.

Using Essential oils:

  • The easiest was to use essential oils is in your diffuser. It is a lovely way to scent your room, relax, as well as setting the mood.
  • If you choose to use essential oils topically in a massage oil, it is important to dilute it first. You would use a 1% dilution because you are applying your massage oil to a large area on your body. (a 1% dilution would be 6 drops of essential oil to 30 ml of carrier oil). If the massage oils irritate your skin, discontinue use.
  • Don’t use essential oils blends or massage oils on your genital area as it may cause irritation to sensitive mucous membranes, and don’t use as a personal lubricant as they are incompatible with latex & will make condoms ineffective.

Essential oils with aphrodisiac properties will help in the romance department by increasing your sense of well-being, easing any stress or anxiety that you may be feeling & helping you to relax. Taking the time for self-care & the time to connect with each other will always improve your relationship. I personally find that a good way to improve your love life is lots of talking, laughing & hugging as well as helping with the dishes or taking out the garbage. Just Sayin’…


My blog is for information only & is not meant to replace medical advice. Essential Oils are not for ingestion & should always be diluted before topical use.

  • Check with your healthcare professional if you have a loss of libido, have an underlying medical condition, or take medication,(especially  before using aromatherapy products for the first time)
  • Avoid using if you have epilepsy or are pregnant or breastfeeding.


  • Davis, Patricia.  Aromatherapy an A-Z. New revised edition, Vermilion,  an imprint  of   Edbury Publishing, a Random House Company, 2005
  •  Lawless. Julia. The Encyclopedia of Essential Oils, Thorsons, 2002
  • Worwood, Valerie Ann, Scents & Scentuality: Essential Oils & Aromatherapy for Romance, Love &  Sex  New World Library, Aug 2012.



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